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We need not walk alone.

We are The Compassionate Friends.

We reach out to each other with love, with understanding and with hope.

Our children have died at all ages and from many different causes,
but our love for our children unites us.

Your pain becomes my pain just as your hope becomes my hope.

We come together from all walks of life, from many different circumstances.

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Sibling's Grief

Please Don't Discount Sibling Grief

Written by TCF (Jane Machado)
Wednesday, 07 December 2005
Please Don't Discount Sibling Grief I have come to think of sibling grief as “Discount Grief.” Why? Because siblings appear to be an emotional bargain in most people’s eyes. People worry so much about the bereaved parents that they invest very little attention in the grieving sibling. My personal “favorite” comforting line said to siblings is “you be sure and take care of your parents’. I wanted to know who was supposed to take care of me...I knew I couldn’t. The grief of a sibling may differ from that of a parent, but it ought not be discounted. People need to realize that while it is obviously painful for parents to have lost a child, it is also painful for the sibling, who has not only lost a sister or brother, but an irreplaceable friend. While dealing with this double loss, he or she must confront yet another factor: The loss of a brother or sister is frequently the surviving sibling’s first experience with the death of any young person. Young people feel they will live forever. A strong dose of mortality in the form of a sibling is very hard to take. The feelings of the siblings are also often discounted when decisions are being made....on things ranging from funeral plans to flower selections. Parents need to listen to surviving siblings who usually know a lot about the tastes and preferences of the deceased. Drawing on the knowledge that surviving siblings have about supposedly trivial things...such as favorite clothes or music...can serve two purposes when planning funeral or memorial services. First, their input helps ensure that the deceased receives the type of service he or she would have liked. Second, their inclusion in the planning lets them know they are still an important part of the family. I realize that people are unaware that they are discounting sibling grief. But then, that’s why I’m writing this...so people will know. Jane Machado TCF Tuland CA

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TCF Principles

TCF offers friendship and understanding to bereaved parents.

TCF believes that bereaved parents can help each other toward a positive resolution of their grief.

TCF reaches out to all bereaved parents across barriers of religion, race, income or ethnic group.

TCF understands that every bereaved parent has individual needs and rights.

TCF helps bereaved parents primarily through local chapters.

TCF chapters belong to their members.

TCF chapters are coordinated nationally to extend help to each other and to individual bereaved parents everywhere.