The Compassionate Friends Philippines (Grief support group for bereaved family members in the Philippines)

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chapter meeting : September 18, 2010 at 4:30-6:30 PM13 Venue is at the Greenhills Fellowship Center, Ruby Cor Garnet Sts, Ortigas Center

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The co-founders of The Compassionate Friends Philippines were featured on the January 8 issue of the Sunday Inquirer Magazine. The following link will take you to INQ7.net : Survivor Tales :But What Do You Call Someone Who Lost A Child?

TCF Credo

We need not walk alone.

We are The Compassionate Friends.

We reach out to each other with love, with understanding and with hope.

Our children have died at all ages and from many different causes,
but our love for our children unites us.

Your pain becomes my pain just as your hope becomes my hope.

We come together from all walks of life, from many different circumstances.

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Surviving the Unthinkable

Written by TCF Cathy Seehuetter
Monday, 12 March 2007
SURVIVING THE UNTHINKABLE I vividly remember April 19, 1995. My daughter Nina had heard on the news that something horrible had just occurred in Oklahoma City. She told me that a federal office building had been bombed, killing many people, many of them very young children. As the scene replayed itself on every station. Nina and I knelt in front of the television. We held hands and were motionless and hushed except for the sound of our occasional choking sobs. As we watched the horrific scene and the victim's loved ones in their shock and grief I distinctly remember my reaction. After saying a silent prayer that I would never have to bury my children first, I looked at my daughter through teary eyes and said aloud, those poor parents! I can`t even imagine! I know that I could never survive losing any of you." Little did I know those words that I had spoken to Nina would come back to haunt me. That only three weeks after the Oklahoma City tragedy. my own beautiful 15 1/2 year old daughter, my Nina with the captivating smile, would be killed suddenly and violently, far away from home on a Florida freeway while on our family vacation. From that moment on, our lives changed completely. She would not be here to see her sisters become mothers and enjoy being aunt to her nephews or watch with pride at her brother`s graduation .A piece of the family puzzle would be forever missing. As my son gazed out the plane window on the agonizing flight back to Minnesota. he turned to look at me and with deep sorrow in his eyes said. "Mom. what will we ever do without Nina`?" That one sentence said it all. I truthfully answered back, "I have no idea." And so the nightmare began for my family just as it has for all of you. We were harshly and unexpectedly propelled into the same horror as those left behind in Oklahoma City. We were left behind to try to answer the unanswerable and pick up the pieces of our shattered world changed in a fleeting second. We have lost our children from many different causes, all of them life altering. I am quite confident that you felt as I did that we would never survive the loss of our child. It was unthinkable for no human being could ever withstand the force of such unbearable pain. However, if you are reading this right now, that means that, somehow you have survived I am quite confident that you sit back and wonder how you ever did. But. like me, you had been directed to The Compassionate Friends, whether through a caring friend who asked that we send you the newsletter or you heard about TCF from a professional. You may have even taken the initiative yourself. Whether you attend our meetings or read the newsletter as your contact to other bereaved parents you already took the first giant step. It was a step that said no matter how much easier it would have seemed to refuse to go on, you had made that commitment toward survival, toward learning to cope with the pain and finding ways to live again. It isn't an easy road to travel, as it is fraught with roadblocks along the way. The first time I noticed I must be progressing was when 1 realized that I had made it through half a day without crying. For those who have not lost a child, this may not seem like much of an accomplishment. But to me it was one that at one time seemed insurmountable. If you really look closely. I think that you too will find that you have made progress no matter how tiny the steps may seem. The grieving process is a long one. Try not to be impatient with yourself if you thought you were making progress only to find you have slipped backwards a little. It is a lifelong process because we have loved our children so deeply and therefore we need to be patient with ourselves. The ultimate heartbreak does not begin to heal overnight. It will be seven years April 19th since the Oklahoma City bombing. Sadly since that time, we have seen additional tragedies that have taken the lives of more children such as TWA Flight 800 the school shootings in Kentucky, Oregon and Littleton and the unspeakable horror of September 11th. Each of us cried along with those parents who were just beginning the same painful journey that we know all too well. 1 wish I could say that another tragedy such as this would never occur or that I would never again see the shock and emptiness in another bereaved parent's face as they walk into a meeting or their cries of despair on the other end of the phone but 1 know that is impossible Yet. 1 can say with certainty that those who have thus far survived the unthinkable will be them for the newcomers who walk through those doors. We will cling to each other and reach out with understanding and compassion and hope-through all those tiny steps, whether forward or backward. Somehow we will survive together. With gentle thoughts, Cathy Seehuetter. TCF/St. Paul. MN

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TCF Principles

TCF offers friendship and understanding to bereaved parents.

TCF believes that bereaved parents can help each other toward a positive resolution of their grief.

TCF reaches out to all bereaved parents across barriers of religion, race, income or ethnic group.

TCF understands that every bereaved parent has individual needs and rights.

TCF helps bereaved parents primarily through local chapters.

TCF chapters belong to their members.

TCF chapters are coordinated nationally to extend help to each other and to individual bereaved parents everywhere.