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The Light Within
Written by TCF- in memory of sascha
Wednesday, 20 December 2006
The Light Within
Many grieving parents and siblings long for a sign that their dead child, sister or brother is not "lost" to them. So it is quite normal that grievers often have moments when they feel somehow "in touch" with the dead child. This feeling may be triggered by a dream that was clearer than other dreams - our awareness seemed heightened, our dream experience was immediate, direct, unmistakably "true." Perhaps we were startled by an event that brought our dead child to our presence in an oddly tangible way. We may have visited a psychic who comforted us with sensitive thoughts and messages.
And so we find her/his image in familiar places; we hear him/her speak words within our mind; we feel a touch, a breath, a presence unbelievably close. But we are expected and we expect ourselves to accept only those things which "make sense" in terms of what the human mind, at present, can recognize as "a fact."
Some of us can take unusual occurrences in stride, but many more, for reasons of faith or logic, are shaken and even disturbed by such events. We worry about offending some requirements of tradition or religion. We wonder are we losing our mind, are we mentally sound or has the fact of our child's death completely distorted our senses?
Don't be alarmed. The first thing to remember is that all things which happen are natural, by definition. The so-called supernatural is only a word coined to describe natural things that do not fit into the framework of what we are at present able to understand. We only have to consider, for instance, that two hundred years ago television would have been regarded as supernatural; actually, TV was even then a natural possibility, but no human had yet been able to put its components into practice.
In a similar way, we may not see the factors at work when we feel "in touch with our dead child. But the idea of such communication can become more understandable, when we remember how connected to most of our children's experiences we are. To some extent, our children's responses are as familiar to us as our own thoughts. Of course, we do not completely and always know how our children feel about absolutely everything (just as we do not always know our own mind). But we have probably internalized our children's way of communicating so well that we can share thoughts after our child is gone, in a very immediate way - whether this should be called psychic or not is beside the point.
We can be "in touch" with our dead children, sisters and brothers who exist in us from the depth of a shared life. Sometimes we hear their words, sometimes we recognize them in images, sometimes we feel their touch. This is our legacy, given to help us heal and grow in spirit.
There is a light of understanding and communion within us, softly illuminated by love, insight, and familiarity. Find its comfort, and trust its wisdom.
-Sascha, LARGO Newsletter, 3/96 In Memory of Sascha
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