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No Name
It has been said that a child who loses his parent is an orphan, a man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow. There is no name for a parent who loses a child, for there are no words to describe this pain.
REMEMBER When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your mind even though countless years and miles may stand between us. It means that if we meet again, you will know me. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and hear my voice and speak to me in your heart.
by Frederick Buechner, Whistling in the Dark
HEALING GRIEF
Breathe deep
Reach Out
Take Comfort
Find Courage
Tell your story
Feel real
Go inside
Keep patience
Breathe deep
We can’t know why some things happen...
But we can know that love
and beautiful memories
outlast the pain of grief.
And we can know that there’s a place
inside the heart where love lives always.....
And where nothing beautiful can ever
be forgotten.
Remember
When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I
am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It
means that you can summon me back to your mind even though countless
years and miles may stand between us. It means that if we meet again, you
will know me. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and
hear my voice and speak to me in your heart.
Frederick Buechner, Whistling in the Dark
Grief's Courageous Journey
Did you know...the universal symbol of
remembering is a candle?
Did you know...letting go of the deceased, but
honoring his/her memory with a symbol is a
ritual that brings healing? Sometimes words are
not there to express what we want to say, but a
symbol that brings meaning to you can help in
the grief process.
S. Caplan and G. Lang
(excerpts taken from Grief’s Courageous Journey)
“It is the nature of love and of death to touch every
person in a totally unique way. Comfort comes from
knowing that people have made the same journey.
And solace comes from understanding how others
have learned to sing again.”
Helen Steiner Rice
There is a tremendous wisdom that is accumulated in
one's encounter with grief, and it needs to be shared.
Healing takes place when we turn our pain into a positive
experience and we realize that helping others is the key to
helping ourselves. When that happens, our problems don't
look so big. We expand on newfound strengths and we
discover that as one door closed, many others have
opened.
The road to recover from grief, therefore, is to take time
to do things which will enable us to give meaning to our
lives. That's when our journey through grief becomes a
journey of discovering ourselves, our potential and our
resources in the encounter with life. That's when we
become BETTER people, rather than BITTER people.
In grief, no one can take away our pain because no one
can take away our love. This call to life is to learn
to love again.
Father Arnaldo Pangrazzi
I Know You By Heart
By Alan Pedersen © 2002 www.everashleymusic.com
There’s time and space between where we are and where we’ve been.
I grieve for what I cannot have or ever hold again.
Just when I think I’m all alone cause you’re so far away,
it suddenly occurs to me, I see you everyday.
You’re that hint of inspiration urging me to carry on.
A boost of needed energy when all my strength is gone.
You’re a single shining ray of hope when faith is hard to find,
and twenty-twenty vision when grief has left me blind.
You’re a lonely roads companion when it’s hard to find a friend.
A much needed reminder that good-bye is not the end.
You’re a calm and reassurance when I scream for answers, why.
A gentle voice that whispers, “Daddy it’s okay to cry.”
You’re part of everything I am and all I’ll ever be.
The one who when I’m at my worst, still sees the best in me.
And though you’re just outside my reach, we are never far apart,
I recognize you everywhere child, I know you by heart.
"When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain & touch our wounds with a gentle & tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in an hour of grief & bereavement,who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing & face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares." Henri J.M. Nouwen
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