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New Year's Resolutions For Bereaved Parents

Written by TCF (Nancy A. Mower)
Friday, 30 December 2005
That I will not blame myself for my child's death, and that I will constantly remind myself that I did the best job of parenting I could possibly have done. But when feelings of guilt are overwhelming, I will remind myself that this is a normal part of the grief process and it, too, will pass. That I will not be afraid or ashamed to seek professional help if I feel it is necessary. That I will commune with my child at least once a day in whatever way feels comfortable and natural to me, and that I won't feel compelled to explain this communion to others or to justify or even discuss it with them. That I will try to eat, sleep, and exercise every day in order to give my body the strength it will need to help me cope with my grief. To know that I am not losing my mind, and I will remind myself that loss of memory, feelings of disorientation, lack of energy, and a sense of vulnerability are all normal parts of the grief process. To know that I will heal, even though it may take a long time. To let myself heal and not to feel guilty about feeling better. To remind myself that the grief process is circuitous - that is, I will not make steady upward progress. And when I find myself slipping back into the old moods of despair and depression, I will tell myself that 'slipping backward" is also a normal part of the grief process and these moods, too, will pass. To try to be happy about something for some part of every day, knowing that at first, I may have to force myself to think cheerful thoughts, so eventually they may become a habit That I will reach out at times, and try to help someone else, knowing that helping others will help me to get over my depression. That even though my child is dead, I will opt for life, knowing that is what my child would want me to do.
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